Something we all have is a THRESHOLD. They do come in all shapes and sizes, but make no mistake, we all have that sometimes undefined ‘fine’ line that separates us from the boundary or the point where something begins to take effect and impacts us in some profound way. In life, we encounter so many types of people. They represent different personalities. They have different needs. They require something, and they should push that….to a point. Are we being proactive, or are we being a pain in the ass? Difficult to tell, as we all have diverse and various needs, and what might be very important to us might be meaningless to those whom you consider leaning on. We all have limits and limitations. How can we possibly know when we are pushing it too far?
It’s important to recognize taking the initiative to create change as a good thing. To do this effectively, we identify the resources we have and consider the best entry point for help. In contrast, being a pain in the ### will always cross that threshold. When you elicit the ‘eye roll’ or the fleeting thought, ‘now what’, we have pushed the limit and crossed the threshold. And if we do, we lose the opportunity to get the assistance we need.
Proactive and annoying……So close and yet so far. Consider what your needs are. What will be the best way to present that? And then consider how you can manage this without crossing the line. Whatever the intent is, presentation is what it’s all about. Irritating a valued resource is not the best approach. Be clear, be concise, be careful. Respect THRESHOLD. It can be a game-changer for better or worse. It can provide the maximum or minimum level for a specific value that, when reached or crossed, triggers a reaction. Be cognizant of the ‘action.’ It represents the outcome. It represents a solution. Don’t overlook the threshold to create a problem. Lead with curiosity. Ask for advice, not HELP. Provide your own value. Have purpose, be persistent, and remember, we all have a THRESHOLD.
